A lot of people will agree that love isn't just a journey of happy endings. In fact, if you happened to watch the interview of the Queen of Comedy - AiAi to her recent break up with her husband, you will feel the pain that everyone of us is capable of feeling. Heartbreaks as they say is a part of relationship, Tell me who among here aren't experiencing arguments over your significant others and who among here aren't prone to heartbreak's?
When i was nursing a broken heart to my first bf, i remember having the perspective that maybe it's already the end of the world. I was like feeling depressed and bitter over the fact that he already found someone new and i was never the woman he has been dreaming all along. See, how painful that fact is and waking up each morning is far worst and sleeping is like a medicine. Like how i was born, cuddling with my pillow was my ultimate resort. I cried until my tears get dry and i pray for as long as i remember. True as they say, when you used with the pain already, there will be just a morning that will come that everything seems to be getting fine.
I admit, i rush unto finding a new lover as im afraid in being tagged as single and unhappy while my former lover was enjoying his new flame. Being a brat and immature, i entertained dating after a week and enjoy men's company. But then, after the day ends, i find myself alone and weeping as i can't understand myself thinking my ex still and moving on will never happen overnight.
I remember seeking counselling and enjoying my friends company a lot more. We watched movies, we did bar hopping and we traveled a lot. Yes, it helps but the most essential thing i learned is being with the people who makes you happy will eventually makes you a little better everyday until you eventually realize how your happiness is important and one day at a time, i forgot the pain and packed the pieces of those broken heart to eventually saying goodbye and cutting the rope that attached me to him.
For me, i found myself brave as i manage to surpass that stage but what amazed me is the realization that i can move on with just the thought of making myself happy and not doing it for the sake of letting him know that i moved on. At that, i just find this tips really helpful:
When It's Time To Let Go
1. If the thought of breaking up enters your mind more than once
2. When you start paying more attention to someone else
3. You want kids. He doesn’t.
4. If you haven’t been happy for a long time
5. When it gets dangerous
6. When you don’t trust him anymore
7. You are pressured to stay in the relationship
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